Thom Singer is an expert in working with people to get them more engaged and working toward better performance. He is the author of 12 books and is the host of the “Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do” podcast.
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After a successful career in sales and marketing, Thom Singer became a growth leadership speaker in 2009. A decade later he has brought his high energy presentations and action-oriented content to over 700 audiences. Thom knows that as the speaker or master of ceremonies he has a responsibility to set the tone for a strong conference attendee experience. Known as “The Conference Catalyst” he creates an atmosphere of fun and interaction that lasts beyond his presentation.
Thom earned his Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) in 2014 and is committed to the business of meetings. He is the author of 12 books and is the host of the popular “Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do” podcast. On his show he has interviewed over 350 entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, business leaders and others with a focus on discovering how the most successful people get farther across the gap between potential and results.
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Mike Domitrz: Welcome to the Respect podcast. I’m your host Mike Domitrz from Mikespeaks.com, where we help organizations of all sizes, educational institutions, and the U.S. military create a culture of respect. Respect is exactly what we discuss on this show, so let’s get started.
Mike Domitrz: We’re going to dive right into it. This week we have Thom Singer. I’ve known Tom for a long time, but for those of you who have never met Tom, he is an expert in working with people to get them more engaged and working towards better performance. He’s the author of 12 books and is the host of Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do Podcast. Very cool podcast for anybody out there. If you’re a podcast listener, check it out, Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do. Thank you so much Tom for joining me.
Thom Singer: Hey Mike. Thank you so much for having me.
Mike Domitrz: Absolutely. We’ve known each other for a while and you’re known for somebody who does engagement, if you’re somebody out in the corporate world. Tom in addition to all that, often is an emcee because he’s so good at bringing people together and bringing everything together throughout an event, which is really powerful. So you help groups with what we just talked about, bringing things together. I thought we’d dive right into talking about that gap that can happen between potential and results. How does that occur? What are things people can do?
Thom Singer: Yeah, I mean it’s a real serious thing. For most of my career as a speaker and an emcee, I spoke about how do you get people more engaged with their network. When the economy boomed, all of a sudden nobody cared about the topic of engagement quite as much because it was like oh our people don’t need that, if they get laid off, they’ll find a job in an hour. The comment that kept coming up of what people needed was about this gap between potential and performance. I’ve now interviewed over 500 people about what holds them back, and I’ve interviewed about the same number of people who claim to be totally succeeding. I ask them what are you doing different than what other people are doing. The answers that have come back from this research has been fascinating.
Mike Domitrz: So let’s dive into that. I assume the answer is engagement.
Thom Singer: That was one of my favorite things is that there were really three buckets overall that a lot of the stuff came into. It was plans, passion, and people. The plans was sort of your goal setting, knowing what you’re trying to accomplish. I’m surprised how many people go to work every day and don’t really know what they want more than that week. They don’t have a year or three year or five year sort of goals or plans, and how many people don’t feel it’s been communicated from their company.
Thom Singer: Then the second bucket is passion. What I’ve discovered is the people who are really succeeding are people who like what they do. People, when you look at them, they can put up with the BS that happens in a job, or in a career, if you’re an entrepreneur, or whatever, if you really get out of bed and say I am so fortunate, I love what I’m doing.
Thom Singer: Then the last bucket was people. That made me really happy because for 10 years I had been speaking about how do you connect better with people in a gadget crazy world. Yeah, it’s that people portion is the largest bucket and probably the one that excites me the most because that’s where all my success has come from.
Mike Domitrz: Well and it’s a really important one. You know, here on the show we talk about respect in regards to work, love, and life, and engagement has to do with all three of those areas because all of them can be heavily impacted by lack of engagement, or an unhealthy understanding of engagement. When you think of engagement, let’s talk about each of them separately, when you think of engagement in work, one, what does that mean, two, how do you avoid the extremes, the overly communicating, constantly interrupting, versus the not enough engaged?
Thom Singer: Well, I think in a work setting, if you’re going to be engaged with people, you absolutely, I mean I love the word respect, you have to respect that some of those people are going to have a different outlook, whether it’s just on the project that you’re working on or whether it’s life. I think we’ve kind of gotten to a spot in our society where it’s okay not to respect people if you disagree with them. You see that of course in politics, but I see it seeping in to work and to other things. People are like, well that’s not what we stand for, so screw you. It’s like, well, wait a minute. We’re not going to get anything accomplished if you’re discrediting the people around you.
Thom Singer: I think from a work standpoint, one of the things you have to do to be engaging is that you have to be respectful of the people around you. Part of that is listening. Some of us, myself included, struggle with that sometimes. It’s, you know, you’re used to just jumping in and sharing your opinion. The women in my life tell me that men tend to want to be fixers and that I certainly fall into that. Sometimes you have to just sit back and listen and let the other people be heard.
Mike Domitrz: I love that. It’s such an important discussion too, so I appreciate you bringing that up, that whole listening. What people say is it’s a skill. What I always like to bring forth, it’s a practice. You have to continually work on it. It’s not just a skill you gain and then you have. You have to constantly practice listening.
Thom Singer: What did you say? No, I’m just kidding.
Mike Domitrz: Well, and because a lot of people think well I’ll listen for my chance to talk versus listening, being fully present in the moment.
Thom Singer: Yeah, and I always say that introverts are actually better networkers. Sometimes people look at me and go, what, what are you talking about, because they think of networking being like the cocktail reception where the extrovert is telling the latest story a over a glass of wine, but the truth is is that introverts will listen more when they’re in a conversation at a business event. Typically then, because they’re listening more, they’ll hear what somebody says. That gives them that ability to be a giver. It gives them the ability to help other people achieve. So I’m always telling the introverts in the crowd, don’t be scared. Take back the networking because the extroverts, when the other person’s talking, they’re usually thinking, kind of like you said, what can I say next, but the introvert is really sort of absorbing and listening to what’s being said. As an extrovert, I’ve learned that I have to step back and teach myself to listen and that I don’t always have to be the star of the show.
Mike Domitrz: Yeah. You’re right, the extrovert, especially those of us who speak and all, we’re used to that. People look for us to do that, so sometimes it can be harder to realize I don’t need to do that. In fact, I might grow and become a better person by not being what I’m expected to be on stage when I’m off stage. In speaker world, people say always be the same offstage and onstage. Well you’re in different roles off stage. That’s not always accurate.
Thom Singer: Yeah, you can’t be the same onstage and offstage because offstage other people are part of that conversation. Onstage, you’ve been hired to talk for an hour, so you have to be a little bit different. I mean, you should be the core of your soul, who you are as a person. I mean we’ve all met people who are one way at church, and they’re one way at the office, they’re a different way at the bar. I think you have to have that integrity and that consistency in sort of who you are, but it’s certainly not in the way you behave.
Thom Singer: The other thing that sort of triggered in my mind when you said this is about a year and a half ago I read an article in the Harvard Business Review by a, now I’m going to mess up his name, I think it’s Vivek Murthy. He was the Surgeon General under President Obama. The article, I think it was titled The Epidemic Of Loneliness. He talked about the fact that we have more tools to connect than at anytime in history, and yet people feel more invisible, they feel more lonely. It’s across generational lines. People don’t feel they have the connections that they want and that human beings need. I think that’s one of the things we have to remember.
Thom Singer: I tell people all the time is that when you’re in a crowd put your phone down and see people. I sometimes will tweet with the hashtag #seepeople because I think we have to get back to that part where even if it’s just a smile, you don’t have to talk to everybody if you pass by somebody on the street, but we forget that people need that. Sometimes, the reason I remembered this, is sometimes it’s the extrovert in the room who is the life of the party who feels very alone, who feels very lost. We don’t assume that because of the way they’re behaving. I think that’s one of the things that we have to do if we’re engaging in the workplace was your question, but really everywhere, I think we have to remember to step back and not just listen, but really kind of see the other person as a whole human being.
Mike Domitrz: Well and that goes back to your earlier point about respect, giving every human being respect versus tolerating, versus putting up with, or just saying I don’t have to. It’s one thing that I talk about, and we write about this fact, is this statement of you have to earn my respect. No! That is one of the most unhealthy concepts that could ever exist in an organization or an institution. Because the moment I think that you have to earn my respect or I have to earn your respect, I am less than you and I have to perform to your liking to be treated with value. That’s an insane concept.
Mike Domitrz: I’m thrilled you brought that up Thom about this idea of look, to be seen and to be valued, that’s what respect is all about. I think it’s so beautiful that you brought up that concept of, hey, I don’t have to agree with you, you don’t have to like me, we don’t even have to think that our work is of the same level, like maybe you don’t do as well work or I don’t do as well work, but to be treated with respect as a human being, that’s something we should all be doing for each other.
Mike Domitrz: Do you see that as a struggle when people are trying to feel valued and seen, this idea well you have to prove yourself before I’m going to treat you with respect?
Thom Singer: Yeah, and I think we live in a world that has become very judgy. It’s so interesting because some of the people who talk about not judging then turn around and judge other people. I recently started doing standup comedy. It’s something that most people don’t take up at 51 years old, but a year ago I started doing this as sort of an experiment to see what I would learn, but I really enjoyed the community. One of the things I found is it was very odd. I go into a business setting for the last 20 or 30 years, and I look like a business guy. I show up. I know how to talk the talk of business. At a business event, if you stand at a networking event with a glass of wine and you stand by yourself, someone’s going to come up and go, hi, what brought you to this networking event or whatever. Somebody is going to do that. There’s a host of the event or whatever.
Thom Singer: What I found very interesting was the first six months I was doing this, the comedians in my hometown and stuff, they would look at me like who brought their dad. It was really fascinating to be in a culture where nobody would speak to me. It was hard for me for a while. I mean I almost didn’t come back because it was so foreign to be in a situation where people would just kind of roll their eyes and they were making assumptions based on the fact that I’m this older business looking guy who looks like he had just spent the day working in corporate America.
Thom Singer: I found that was a huge learning experience to me is I’m now looking for the person everywhere I go who looks like maybe they don’t feel comfortable, or they don’t fit in, and I’m going up and talking to them. That was a huge lesson for me this year.
Mike Domitrz: What are … That’s a beautiful lesson because people don’t think of that. They think, well the more older we get, the more respect you get, but it depends on the environment, as you explained there. Now that you’re conscious of that and trying to engage others, have you had some experience or stories that relate to you now trying to do this and a discovery you had, or a relationship you started, or a wow moment you had, an aha moment?
Thom Singer: Yeah, I don’t think that there’s one I can point to like in just the last six months of kind of discovering this through that being in a community where I was the outsider, but I think throughout my life I have always tried to do that. I have friends who are some of the most influential friends in my life who aren’t people that if you had gone back in a time machine, back 30 years and found me at my frat house in college and said by the way, your best friends in the world will believe in this, or they will vote for that, or they will be part of that community. I probably would have said, oh, you’ve found the wrong person time traveler, because I think that we do, we sort of grew up in whatever community we grew up in and we think that it’s always going to be that way.
Thom Singer: My daughter was recently talking about one of my friends who has a little bit more of an alternative lifestyle than I have. My daughter said, “You’re a better person because she’s your friend.” I looked at my daughter and I said, “Yup, that is an astute answer.” I think that that’s one of the things that I’ve learned, not in the last six months, but over the last maybe 16 years, is we’re better people when we surround ourselves with people who are different than us, people of different races, of different religions, who grew up in different parts of the country or the world, people with different political beliefs. I’ll actually say that out loud. I know nobody in today’s society wants a friend from the opposite political party, different sexual orientation. I think when we’re around people who experience the world differently, I think we become better people.
Mike Domitrz: Absolutely. I have friends who haven’t known me a long time, who maybe they come into my life and they meet one of my closest friends. We ride together, we travel together, as far as riding, bike riding, and we travel together. People meet him and they go, “How are you two friends? He’s literally on the complete political opposite spectrum of you. How do you engage in conversations?” They seem to forget you mean the fact that he’s a great dad, you mean the fact that he’s fun to be around, you mean the fact that he believes in his heart in doing the right thing even though we believe that’s the opposite. It’s interesting how people cannot find that possible.
Thom Singer: You can be friends with somebody who’s different as long as you both come into the friendship with respect. I remember my best friend in college, who he’s my daughter’s godfather, he’s still like my brother, and this is, you have to take this back into context of the time, this was the 1980s. I don’t know if anybody would say this today, but he was Jewish. I was Catholic. Somebody asked us, “How can you guys be so close when you come from competing religions?” He and I looked at each other, it had never crossed our mind. Once had it never crossed our minds in that format. He made a joke of it. He said, well, he goes, “His religion believes Jesus was the savior, my religion believes Jesus was a really nice guy. He goes, “Other than that, we get along really, really well.”
Thom Singer: He and I kind of rolled our eyes. We still make jokes about that comment being made to us 30 years ago, but I think it’s one of those things that everything doesn’t have to be a competition. I never viewed my upbringing around religion as a competitive one. I think everybody, I think people try to divide rather than unite.
Mike Domitrz: Yes, and that’s the catch where if we’re going to be the person who’s trying to ignite positive change through engagement, we have to be willing to go against that, to say where there is division, where can I bring unity. Wouldn’t you agree that’s really critical if you’re going to lead right now?
Thom Singer: Yeah. I think if we’re going to be a leader, whether it’s at work or in our community or in politics, I think there’s a couple of things. I think you have to stand up and take ownership of your own life. I think you have to say, okay, I’m responsible for what I do, at least from this day forward. I think there’s a lot of finger pointing going on and a lot of blame going on. I think that the real leaders stand up and go, okay, yeah that was yesterday, today here’s what I do. I think that sort of ties into what you were talking about.
Mike Domitrz: Yeah. Awesome. What I love about you Thom is you very much openly talk about the engagement you have in, we talked about work, love and life, that you have in your life, your family life, your personal life. I’ve been able to watch the journey of your daughter going through school and all, and you’re very open about that in social media too, which I love. So let’s talk about engagement in our family lives and our personal lives. Not everybody has kids or not everybody’s married, but how would you describe the key to that in ones love life, personal life?
Thom Singer: You know, I was very fortunate. I had parents who are good role models, who were a good example. My dad always said that they could’ve had more money, but they didn’t prioritize boats and trips. They prioritized experiences for raising the children. It was kind of one of those things that when my mom, when I was a teenager my mom got really ill, and I was a late life baby, so they could have been empty nesters for a long time if they hadn’t had little surprise package in their 40s and 50s. When I was a teenager and my mom was 58, she died. My last conversation I ever had with her, we had this conversation where she actually asked me, she wasn’t talking much at that point, she was very sick, she said, “Would you trade me for a mother who would live longer?” I got really angry. I thought why would you ask that question. That’s ridiculous. Of course not. I think I was crying and I was upset. I was 17 or 18 years old.
Mike Domitrz: That’s a powerful question, by the way.
Thom Singer: Like I said, at the time I was upset by it. We started arguing about it. She said, “Calm down.” She said, “I asked you this question because if you wouldn’t trade me for a parent who would live longer, then you’re going to have to deal with the inevitable of what’s going to happen.” We ended up talking for an hour about my life after she died. I was a freshman in college. She didn’t want to see me drop out of school. She didn’t wanna see me derail my future. She had must see me hurt relationships I would have with people or turn to drugs or other things. She was very clear that we had to have this discussion. It was one of those things that at the time we had the discussion and that was fine, but 20 years later I realized that she knew her purpose in that conversation.
Thom Singer: I mean, it must have sucked to have been 58 years old and know you were going to die any day or within weeks, and yet in that conversation, she was the parent of a teenager about to lose a parent. As a parent myself now, I realize the gravity of having that conversation from her side of it. Yet, what the example of that was was that that was the goal. She told me in that conversation, and she was a religious woman, she said that when I was born, she was in her 40s, she said a little prayer that she would see me through my 18th birthday, high school graduation and off to college. Then she got kind of a wicked little smile on her face and she goes, “My God, if I knew he was listening that closely, I would have asked for a hell of a lot more.” But her point was, she got everything she wanted. The goal really was raising the family, that that was the priority and getting the kids up and out.
Thom Singer: I think that example that both my parents set around that is something that I’ve tried to be with my wife and kids is that we’re here for this purpose and sometimes money is tight. My daughter went to a very expensive university. Recently I was sharing with a friend the amount it costs me in debt, and I haven’t carried debt, and it was more than I thought by the time you figure out room and board. The friend said, “You never should have let her go to that expensive of a university.” I thought, that’s so wrong because this was the right school for the right kid at the right time. It is what it is and we’ll get through it, but that was our priority was if you could earn your way into one of the most prestigious colleges in the world, how do you not go if that’s what you had spent 10 years making sacrifices to do. And so as a family, as a unit, we’ve gotten behind both the kids and said, we’ll help you with this, but now, I mean, you have to help us someday.
Mike Domitrz: Oh, that’s beautiful. Curious, did they ask ever what that meant? They said at someday you’re going to have to help us.
Thom Singer: No, but I’ve nicknamed them retirement plan. No, I mean, they get the idea that, I mean it’s not like we’re broke, we have some money, but we may not be able to take nice trips when we’re retired and maybe if they’re wealthy they’re going to have to find a way to do that, or maybe at some point they’re going to have to live close to them and they’re going to have to provide some assistance if we can’t, it’s not unlimited funds. That that’s what being part of a family unit is all about.
Thom Singer: When when my dad, who was older when I was born and sort of raised me with the fact that when I was a teenager something could happen to him, he never expected something would happen to my mother, his parents had died younger and hers had lived longer, so this was not the prediction. After she died, he said, “I’m sorry.” I was 18. He was 70. He said, “You might’ve gotten the short end of the stick. I don’t know how long I’m going to be around.” Well, he just passed away a few years ago at the age of 99. My father ended up living quite a long time, but in the last five years we moved him into a retirement village down the street from one of my brothers. All of us, but especially that one brother, sort of stepped up and taking care of things that he needed. That was part of being a family unit.
Thom Singer: When he finally did pass, I remember sending my brother a letter, gosh I’m getting teary eyed about it, sending my brother a letter saying thank you for all you did for dad. His response was, you did it for mom. Nobody ever looked at it as anything other than what a family unit does.
Mike Domitrz: Thank you for sharing Thom. The beauty of that is everything you just shared is about engagement. Being there for other people, what they need, listening, honoring. So much beauty in the reality of what you just shared for everyone to think about. I am doing that for my loved ones? Am I living a life that was teaching those around me to do that for, would they do that for me in my hour of need? It makes you reflect and think, so that’s beautiful. Thank you.
Mike Domitrz: Now you’re the parent of the kids going to college. Now you’re on the other end of the spectrum. Because one thing I loved about what your mom said that I thought was so amazing was by you saying I wouldn’t trade, then you are able to be grateful for the mom you have in that moment. That that was some of the … That’s what I caught in that. I don’t know if that’s what she was intending at the time, but by you saying that it allowed to lead with move forward with gratitude.
Thom Singer: Well and what she said in that, if I remember it clearly and it’s been 30 plus years, 35 years or whatever it’s been, but if I remember it clearly it was, “if you wouldn’t trade me, then you have to accept the realities of what this relationship is.” The underlying tone of that is this relationship is about to come to an end. However, you take this, you take what you learned and you take the good times with you. Yeah, I think that the message was if you wouldn’t trade, then you have to just be honest about where you stand, and that’s the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Mike Domitrz: Well yeah, and that’s the part that I love about it also. It allows you to sit there and go, I am thrilled this is my mom, so you can also appreciate every day that you have with that person. Some can hear that story and hear that, which is beautiful too in and of itself.
Mike Domitrz: Now you’re the parent of somebody going away to college. We just talked about all those decisions that go with that. But now you have a child graduating and getting engaged. Speaking of engagement, that’s a whole different discussion to the word engagement, different definition, everything, are you already starting to think how do I want to engage her partner for life? How do I want to engage her for life as she moves on into this new relationship? How does engagement play into those relationships?
Thom Singer: Well, it’s interesting because when you said the word engagement my mind immediately goes to engagement for matrimony because we’re living that right now.
Mike Domitrz: Right.
Thom Singer: We’re in a year long countdown now for the wedding. When she went to college, she didn’t know if she would ever get married and have kids. Her goal was to go to the Fortune 500, go to Wall Street, and work in management at some C level for some sort of a Fortune 500 company. She is now graduating college, starting her own business in the women’s strength and fitness arena, and doing some contract work for some people on the side so she can pay her rent while she’s launching her business with no intention of going to work for a big bank or Wall Street. And, freshman year she met a guy. You wouldn’t say, ” Oh yeah, go to college and meet a guy freshman year. That’s what we would recommend.” But, three and a half years later he’s still around.
Thom Singer: When he asked for the blessing to ask her to get married, he and I had gone to a Pittsburgh Steelers game, and it was the end of the night and he was trying to say something. He’s a little bit shy and I realized what it was about happen. I said, “Thomas, I think I know what you’re going to say, what you’re going to ask. It’s okay.” He said, “I would like your blessing to ask your daughter to marry me.” My answer was, “For three years,” because my daughter and I are so close, everybody asked me, “What do you think Thom? What do you think of Thomas?” My answer always was you couldn’t ask for your daughter to date a nicer kid because he is a sweet, nice, caring kid. He’s also a mathematical genius. I mean he’s one of the smartest mathematicians in the world, and so I have no idea what he does on a daily basis because he is like that smart.
Thom Singer: But when he asked for the blessing, I said, “I have always said you couldn’t ask for your daughter to date a nicer kid.” I go Thomas, “From now on, I will give the answer you couldn’t ask for your daughter to marry a nicer man.” I’m trying to engage him and their relationship as they’re adults. This is now their their thing, and I am going to have respect. My wife and I aren’t here to tell them what to do. We got her through college and now she’s got to figure it out on her own, and she does it with this partner. He’s a nice guy. He comes from a good family. All we can do is sit back on the sidelines and be there if they come and ask, but I don’t want to be the type of person who meddles. At the end of the day, we’re here … As your kids get older, you become a guide, not a parent. They have to ask for that guidance.
Mike Domitrz: Yeah, I love that language. That’s beautiful. You have a book that you really recommend that you feel has a big impact. The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People by Dr Stephen Covey. Of course, a lot of people know of this book. It’s obviously a bestseller. What particularly do you love about the book?
Thom Singer: Well, so it’s kind of old school. The book is, God it’s got to be 30 years old. I read it at a time in my life where I was young and lost and struggling and someone recommended the book to me. It really gave me a roadmap of sort of how to just be a good person who was going to do good things and going to have a good life. I believe that it holds up today. I think that if you read it today, it holds up and gives you sort of that guidance.
Thom Singer: It gives you that roadmap of how to make decisions. Because careers are hard. Life is hard. To be a highly effective person is not easy. That’s why there’s not very many of them when you look around. I think that it’s one of those books that came along at the right time and the right place for me. So when I get asked that question, I always go back to that because there’s a lot of other books that pop up and things that come and go and flash in the pans, but it’s been a bestseller for 30 years and so it’s not just me that thinks it’s good. The rest of society thinks it holds up as well.
Mike Domitrz: Absolutely. You are the host of Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do. For our listeners, I want you to check that podcast out, Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do, really, really neat. Thom’s won awards for the podcast, so it’s really, really cool. To find Thom, there is a uniqueness in the spelling, so I want to make sure all listeners know that. Thom has an H right after the T, like Thomas, but no AS at the end, so T-H-O-M, Thom Singer, just like it sounds like your singing, Singer, S-I-N-G-E-R. ThomSinger.com. Find the podcast there. Find Thom there. You can find Twitter, Instagram, all @ThomSinger with that H, T-H-O-M. Thank you so much Thom for joining us today.
Thom Singer: Thank you Mike. This was great.
Mike Domitrz: Absolutely. For our listeners, you know what’s coming up next. That is question of the week.
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Mike Domitrz: This week’s question is, “Mike, how do your friends most profoundly impact your life?” For me, this answer is very easy because my friends are such wonderful people that they are role models for me. I look at them as spouses, I look at them as parents and think wow, look at the love, look at the guidance. Am I showing up that way? Am I being that loving in that moment? Am I being that appreciative, that supportive, that helpful? Thus, it challenges me to want to be a better me because of watching them. That’s what I love about having wonderful, caring, loving friends. They make you want to be more of your best self. Not just when you’re around them, but every day of your life. It’s one of the greatest gifts a friend can bring you.
Mike Domitrz: Do you know what I would love? I would love to hear your answer to this week’s question of the week. Would you please answer what your answer would have been if you were asked that question today on the show? All you do is go to our Facebook page. We have a special group where we have these discussions called the Respect Podcast Discussion Group. The Respect Podcast Discussion Group, and share with us what would your answer have been to this week’s question of the week. And, take a moment, post us a new question for future episodes. What question would you like to hear me answer on an upcoming episode? That’s all done on Facebook in our special group, which is the Respect Podcast Discussion Group. Can’t wait to see you there.
Mike Domitrz: Thank you for joining us in this episode of The Respect podcast, exploring work, love, and life. This episode, like every episode, is brought to you by our organization, The Center For Respect, which you can find it, centerforrespect.com. Of course, you can find me, your host, Mike Domitrz, at MikeSpeaks.com. Thank you so much for joining us.