What are most parenting approaches based in? Respect, do as I say, or discipline? Notice in the title of this episode where it says “get your kids to” vs “have your family thriving in co-operation”. Alyson Schafer dives into the struggles and new ways to approach parenting that can be truly cooperative in nature. Mike Domitrz asks questions on the HOW TO side of this conversation.
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BIO of Alyson:
Alyson Schafer BSc. MA counselling Alyson is a family counsellor, parenting expert and best selling author. She speaks and teaches around the globe. Alyson host her own TV show aptly named “The Parenting Show”. She is the resident parent expert for such media outlets as HuffPost, CBC radio, The Marilyn Denis Show, Global Morning and more. You can find her quoted in The Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Real Simple and others.
Alyson also works with many corporate brands and non-profits the enhance the life of parents. She has trained teachers and help open two nursery schools.
A parent herself, Alyson has two daughters 24 and 25.
Links to Alyson:
- www.alysonschafer.com
- @alysonschafer
- facebook.com/AlysonSchaferParentingExpert
- https://www.youtube.com/user/AlysonSchaferVideos/playlists
Books recommended by Alyson:
- Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson
- Kids are Worth it by Barbara Colorossa
- Calming the Family Storm by Gary McKay and Steve Maybell
- Parents and Teens by William Glasser
YOUR HOST: Mike Domitrz is the founder of The Center for Respect where he helps educational institutions, the US Military and businesses of all sizes create a culture of respect throughout their organizations. From addressing consent to helping corporations build a workplace free from fear (reducing sexual harassment and helping employees thrive by treating them with respect every day), Domitrz engages audiences by sharing skill sets they can implement into their lives immediately. As an author, trainer, keynote speaker and coach, Mike Domitrz loves working with leaders at all levels. Learn more at http://www.CenterForRespect.com
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Mike Domitrz:
Welcome to The RESPECT podcast. I’m your host Mike Domitrz from mikespeaks.com, where we help organizations of all sizes, educational institutions, and the US military create a culture of respect. And respect is exactly what we discuss on this show. So let’s get started. This week we have Alyson Schafer with us. She is a family counselor, parenting expert and bestselling author. She speaks internationally about democratic parenting practices. Alyson, thank you so much for joining us.
Alyson Schafer:
Such a pleasure. Very, very nice to be participating with you.
Mike Domitrz:
Oh, absolutely. And you know we’re all about respect here, and we love respecting people’s story too. What’s your story about how you became a parenting expert? Because you and I both know when you talk to parent groups, I’ve had the same thing sometimes. I’m sure you get it. [inaudible 00:00:50] and what makes you an expert?
Alyson Schafer:
Yeah, the eyeballs roll. Who qualifies as an expert? No one’s an expert and I totally agree. I don’t actually like that title, to tell you the truth. It just is what is recognizable. I think the better word is parent educator, but I do have a unique story in that I’m the third generation in my family to bring parent education to their communities. So my grandmother was actually friends with somebody called Rudolf Dreikurs who wrote a book called Children the Challenge, which was considered and still is, by the Library of Congress, to be a seminal work on child discipline. And he was a student protege of Alfred Adler. So all my training is in Adlerian psychology. And many people don’t know the name Adler. So just to put him in context, there was Sigmund Freud, everyone knows Carl Yeung, everybody knows. And then this third guy, Alfred Adler, and they were intellectual sparring partners at the turn of the century. And the three of them are responsible really for what is modern day psychology.
Alyson Schafer:
It’s just Adler’s name or brand got lost in the mix. But his ideas really infiltrated family counseling. And so I’m sort of a purist in Adlerian psychology, and he had as his main emphasis, cooperation, respectful relationships. And whether that was within a marriage, parent child or in the workplace or in our greater communities, that was really his emphasis.
Mike Domitrz:
And I’ve actually had one of the guests on the… Also very big believers. Same philosophies, the same names you brought up. So why, you brought up a key word there about cooperation. Why is it do parents struggle so much? And this is what I like about you bringing it up, this wasn’t brought up in past episodes. Why do parents struggle so much with getting cooperation? Why do they feel it’s so hard? I’ve been there as a parent, every parent’s been there.
Alyson Schafer:
Yeah. So to your point, we like the idea of being in respectful relationships with our kids, philosophically. But then where the rubber hits the road is, it’s time to get in the car and your kids aren’t getting dressed and they’re dawdling and you’re late and we end up yelling. And so when we yell, we just think that’s just a parent trying to discipline and manage their children. Now if a child yells at us, we call that disrespect. That many of our parenting practices, if we really unpack them, are not really based on winning our children’s cooperation. A lot of what we end up doing is trying to get our kids to mind our will. And that really is an obedience model. And we think that because we have good intentions, like shouldn’t they get in the car?
Alyson Schafer:
Shouldn’t they eat their carrots? Shouldn’t they wipe their own bum? They’re four and a half. These basic family problems really stymie parents, but they still go about it a much older societally archived way, which is really just hoping that our kids will mind our will. And it simply does not work. And as time progresses and kids have a greater sense of social equality in our society, which I think is brilliant, we’re doing a much better job of that. They’re less and less tolerant when parents try to control them. So the issue is becoming bigger in modern day families than in the past.
Mike Domitrz:
So how do we do it?
Alyson Schafer:
Yeah, right. So that’s the million dollar question. So I like to say, so just that parents can get in their mind, there is a difference between the end goal of obedience. Do as I say, because I say so. But I’m going to give you good instruction, which is, you can argue that’s false for a lot of parents. Or how can I stimulate you to want to do pro-social behavior? It’s a different goal, different methods. Cooperation from kids is actually a byproduct. That’s what I like parents to think of, that if we could agree that human beings are social creatures, that the natural wiring of us is to be pack animals, herd animals, social clan type animals, and we’re wired for cooperation. Something has to go off the rails for that not to work. That’s our natural state. So the conditions that flourish cooperation is when kids feel a sense of belonging, like affinity. So they feel a part, a part of the clan, a part of the family group, which is the first social group a child’s born into.
Alyson Schafer:
So they have to feel that they belong and have their place. And then the second is to be in that mutually respectful relationship, which means that neither parent nor child is in a one up, one down position. The parent isn’t controlling the child or demeaning the child. Nor can I say, because I see this more in modern families, neither should the child be the tyrant who demeans the parent, by demanding special service or demanding that I don’t like what the family eats. I want to have French fries and chicken fingers. So go make me a special meal, which is demeaning to the rights of the parent. So it’s about moving out of these slave tyrant relationships and moving to mutual respect. So you’ve got to learn how to do discipline in a way that is effective but non demeaning.
Alyson Schafer:
And that is where we don’t have a cultural tradition to draw on. And it’s why going to parent education classes just unloads all these tools. So there’s many, many tools to stimulate cooperation and be an effective disciplinarian. Whereas when we’re trying to gain obedience, we basically just have sticks and carrots. It’s just punishment and rewards. And that’ll work temporarily, but it’s got some bad outcomes as we know from research.
Mike Domitrz:
So let’s go to the child who’s not cooperating.
Alyson Schafer:
People want live examples, right?
Mike Domitrz:
Exactly.
Alyson Schafer:
Let’s give me one of those tools. Okay. So here would be a great example. If we’re going to be in a mutual respectful relationship, then rather than the parent being the highest authority… Don’t get me wrong, parents are an authority in that they have a different role in the family.
Alyson Schafer:
They’re the leader of the family. So I differentiate. It’s different being a boss than being bossy. So you’re the leader, you have different roles, responsibilities, you do. But the highest authority is what are the needs of the situation. And so we need to not control children, but we need to control the social order. That’s our parenting job. So I might for example say, “In our culture, the needs of the situation are when we come to the table, we stay at the table while we eat and we asked to be excused. And when we get down, that means we’re done the meal.” So if a child gets up and down from the table, I can’t make them stay at the table, but I can say, “A requirement in eating is to stay at the table. If you get down, that lets me know that you’re done.” And I pop their plate away, and you can wait until the next meal the next time we sit at the table.
Alyson Schafer:
But we have to be able to follow through on that and do it in a way that is firm and that we do it. We actually take the plate away, and friendly. This is the part the parents have trouble with. They so think kids have to be in pain to learn, they want to do it. They take away the plate and then they say, “Don’t come to me if you want a snack in 15 minutes. You messed up, you decided to get down.” We got to do it in a, “Okay, tomato, tomato, eat or don’t eat, get down, don’t, it doesn’t matter, but the plate goes away.” I can’t make you wash your hands to come to the table, but I can say needs of the situation. We need to have clean hands to have a meal.
Alyson Schafer:
So when your hands are clean, this is a when then statement, when your hands are clean, then I know you’re ready for dinner. So we’re still very much enforcing pro-social behavior, but we’re not controlling the child. We’re leaving them free to see, that just makes good sense. They’re actually learning. So it’s an educative model, which is really what the root word of discipline is, where now we’re stimulating intrinsic motivation. It’s in my best interest to wash my hands, because I really do want to have dinner with everybody. So it’s a shift in the emphasis. And those are just two tools. I just used logical consequences and when then statements as two very powerful but effective methods, that when parents try them they’re like, “Hot diggity. I did that three times and we don’t have that problem anymore.” And it’s respectful and it works and that’s really what parents are looking for.
Mike Domitrz:
So what if a parent says, “Okay, I do all of that, I stay calm. But when they get to the real world, the boss is not going to be calm when they don’t do what they say. So they’re going to have a wake up call that I’m not preparing them for.”
Alyson Schafer:
There are disrespectful workplaces. I am not going to make my parenting philosophy based on the world is disrespectful, so I better teach my kid to be disrespectful in it, because that’s going to make… I want to have inspirational parenting that says if you’re in a workplace like that, then as an adult you’re actually allowed to say, “I don’t like this work culture. I’m going to go to some other Fortune 500 company or Worldblu company that espouses my values, where I’m respected,” which is why we need to do so much training in workplace culture, which is where you’re doing a brilliant job. So that kids can say, if I was raised in a respectful family, I wouldn’t tolerate a boss like that.
Alyson Schafer:
I wouldn’t tolerate a culture that didn’t agree with that. If we speak to people that are in HR, whatever, they’ll say, “We’ve got lots of smart people, but the what we have a deficit in is people who can get along with one another.” So I think teaching kids to cooperate, whether that’s with peers, people in junior positions or whether it’s people they report to, that training happens at home. So I don’t want to lower the bar just because the world needs to improve.
Mike Domitrz:
I love that philosophy, by the way. That’s great. So why do you think people struggle with understanding respect in the family unit?
Alyson Schafer:
I think one of the problems is parents think that respect is owed. Meaning, I’m your parent, I’m older than you. I gave birth to you. Because I have this title, you need to respect me.
Alyson Schafer:
And they also incorrectly ascribed behavior as disrespectful that isn’t always, meaning it’s not the child’s motivation. So one of the things that I think is important for parents to know that differentiates Adlerian psychology and the message that I bring versus some other parent educators, is in Adlerian psychology we’re always talking about the goal of misbehavior. What’s the usefulness, what’s the utility, why does the child choose to do this behavior? And once you understand what the child’s goal is, what the utility is, then you’re better armed at figuring out how to change the transaction. So a lot of my work, Mike, the majority of my work I can say, is getting parents and children out of power struggles. And so when you realize that a lot of times why the child isn’t washing their hands to come to the dinner table is not so much that they care about clean hands or that they don’t want dinner.
Alyson Schafer:
It’s just that the parent has often tried to control and micromanage kids, and they nag and they go on and they’re constantly on them. And the child feels like they want to prove to their parent, I will not be your puppet. And so once we get into a power struggle, then the child will defy the parent. And by refusing, and you see this all… I have parents where the kids don’t shower for two weeks or they refuse to eat for days or they won’t go to the bathroom. They’ll hold their bowels until they’re lying on the floor in pain. And it’s not that they don’t want to eat or go to the bathroom, it’s just their ego bound to not submit to their parents’ control. So once we understand that it’s really not about respect and it’s not that the child doesn’t want to do pro-social behavior, but they’ve become embroiled in a power struggle.
Alyson Schafer:
Then we can teach the parent how to get out of that power struggle, and free the child to make better decisions for themselves, because it isn’t embedded in the relationship. And actually kids often in the right conditions make all kinds of good choices. But parents just get so on them and so controlling that it triggers that defiance in our kids.
Mike Domitrz:
And if somebody is going, “Yeah, but I’ve already made the mistakes.”
Alyson Schafer:
The good thing is things can always change. It’s the one great thing. I love when I do my intake interviews with parents as they come into my private practice. And I’ll say, “How are things going at school? What does the teacher say? How is it when they’re being looked after for the weekend at their grandparents?” And almost inevitably they’ll say, “Oh, it’s fine there. “
Alyson Schafer:
It’ll be one or the other. Either it’ll be the teacher saying, I got a real problem with this kid in my classroom. And you’re like, “Really? My Johnny, everything’s great at home.” Or it’s vice versa. Where things are terrible at home and the teacher says, “Oh, he’s totally awesome in class. I don’t know who you’re talking about,” which proves that the problem resides at the level of the relationship. It’s not global functioning, it’s not characterological. It’s in the dynamics of the family and the sharing of power, and the distribution of respect in the family. And once you get that straightened out, then good behavior flows. It’s inspiring because it’s changeable. And kids change way faster than parents. They haven’t had it ingrained in their head for 40 years the way we have. So you can change a family’s functioning very quickly.
Mike Domitrz:
Yeah. And a statement we hear a lot in today is this generation doesn’t respect authority. Now I get to work with students all around the world, and I know it’s just not true. Or maybe you believe it’s true. Why do you think that is being said so much that they don’t respect authority, they don’t listen?
Alyson Schafer:
So again, going back to definitions, I think the phenomenon that we are seeing is very much like we saw in the civil rights movement, then we saw it in the women’s movement. That there is now what I would call a children’s revolution quietly happening. But they are not organizing. They don’t go protest at city hall. They just quietly protest in their living rooms when they get into issues with their parents. And that lack of trust of authority is only happening to authority figures that do not show them respect.
Alyson Schafer:
So you work with kids, you work with them around the world. You see when you show respect to a child, you absolutely get respect back. What they do not respect his authority that demeans them. And because we have this tradition of even just the stereotyping. I’ll just give you an example with my own kids. In high school, if you were late for class, the little pink slip in the office, you had to write down, “My excuse is.” My excuse. Just by the word excuse, not my reason. Does everyone in high school lie about getting to class? Of course there are some kids who are tardy and trying to pull one off. But when you globally say that all kids are lying about why they couldn’t make it to class on time, then we’re stereotyping. And if you thought about youth, teenagers, just mention, Oh, you’re raising teenagers, people’s eyeballs.
Alyson Schafer:
It’s like we’ve given permission to say, “Oh, those teenagers. Oh, you’ve got a teen, oh, poor you.” If they were any other minority group, we would never tolerate this type of stereotyping. So they hear it, they feel it, they’re tired of it, they’re sick of it. And I don’t blame them. They generally are mistreated. So until we get better at giving youth their due respect. And when you see great leadership organizations and you see institutions that are really fostering it, it’s like get out of their way. Kids are the future. They’re amazing. So we just need to have more faith. We need to have way more faith that when they’re in healthy environments, those kids thrive and they absolutely respect those around them, whether they’re peers, younger or older, or authority.
Mike Domitrz:
So all of this is coming from, as you said, Adlerian parenting. Why don’t more people know about it?
Alyson Schafer:
Oh, such a good question. I bring this up with my national and international organizations all the time. We’re bad marketers, that’s for sure. I would say part of it really is that in the parenting world, almost all the parent educators, in order to get a book published or to set up a website or something, they have their own name. So you might not know it as Adlerian. But if you know positive discipline, if you know [PAP, STEP 00:17:23], there’s all these brands and they’re all under the umbrella of Adlerian psychology. But they don’t have a way of showing their association with each other to show people that we really do have this very large presence. In fact, Jane Nelson who runs Positive Discipline, she just trained 15,000 parent educators in China. A lot of my work has actually been over in Europe. I’m going to Belarus next year and Ukraine, because a lot countries that come out of oppressive regimes look to the West and say, we don’t want to raise our children in the manner that we were.
Alyson Schafer:
We came from an oppressive culture. We want to do differently, but we don’t know. We have no modeling. How are you doing it over there? So our organization does a lot of work over in countries that have just moved out of the Russian regime or some kind of dictatorship. So it’s weird. My book is not in Spanish, but my book’s in Korean, Bulgarian. So those people are way more excited about the concept of social democracy. We’ve become a little more laissez faire here. I think we’ve had it for a while. Not that I think we’re doing great at it, but we’ve become a little bit more complacent I guess.
Mike Domitrz:
Let’s transition there because democracy in the home can be its own discussion. There’s parents listening right now that are listening without their partner. And they come back, they’re excited, they want to do this and the partner’s not on board. So what happens when parents disagree respectfully or disrespectfully in parenting styles?
Alyson Schafer:
Oh, I’m so glad you asked me that. In every course I teach, this will come up. This is very, very common. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t parent the same as your partner. And you don’t need to. To your point, what you want to model to your kids is in our family, people can do things differently and we can have faith that our kids can manage that, if daddy doesn’t like yelling and his idea of volume is this, and he gets upset. You know your father, you’ve pushed his buttons, you know what you’re in for. So I say, don’t triangulate. Meaning if they come to you and say, “Daddy yelled at me.” I would just give them a hug and say, “I’m sorry you’re having trouble with your daddy. Work it out with him.” Or it could be mother, I don’t mean to bias the gender thing there.
Alyson Schafer:
So I would say it’s between the parent and the child and I want to show a united front that they can manage that relationship. So you can talk sidebar when the kids aren’t around and say, “Hey, you know that thing that happened today where you yelled, I’m wondering if there isn’t a better way.” And see whether you have sway or influence with your partner or not, but you don’t need to parent exactly the same. I joke and say, “If you both did it exactly the same, one of you would be redundant.” Instead you can see it as additive and say, “You’re really good at patience. Why don’t you be the homework guy? I’m really good at follow through. Let me be the tuck-in person.” Use your strengths in a way that’s going to help the family.
Alyson Schafer:
And then what I think is the most powerful piece for families to understand then is in a democratic family, you need to have a democratic forum. And so I recommend family council meetings, so that you talk about family issues, the business of the family together. And you make agreements of how the family is going to operate. So that hopefully in that form, not only do mom and dad or dad and dad, mom and mom come together in how things are going to go, but the kids have the input. So everybody agrees that when volumes get too loud, this is what should happen. Or in the morning, this is how getting breakfast and getting in the car on time should go. And we all have an agreement on that, and we all have an agreement on what should happen if it falls apart. And so you’re kind of winning the other partner’s agreement at the same time as the whole family is coming together on a solution.
Alyson Schafer:
And I find that often will help eradicate some of the differences or the polarity that happens between parents.
Mike Domitrz:
Have you ever created some kind of approach or signal that allows your kids in your home or any of you to acknowledge, “Hey, there’s a lack of respect here.”
Alyson Schafer:
So my kids, we talked about it in our family council meeting. We said, we’re the family. We create this family culture. We decide how we want to be together. And these are just agreements. It doesn’t matter if they’re written on a paper or a handshake. It’s how we decide to treat each other. And we decide the level of respect in this family. And so, where do we want it to be? I think all of us really like to be treated respectfully. So my daughter said, “If I think that you’re talking disrespectfully to me with tone or whatever, why don’t we have a little signal.”
Alyson Schafer:
And so the signal she came up with was something called level three that was borrowed from a leadership camp she went to. Take it to the next level. Let’s up the respect quotient. So if I would start getting a little sarcastic, a little edge, a little meh, she would say, “Mom, level three.” And the same when I would ask her, “Hey, we’ve got to get this laundry organized, there’s laundry all over the floor, level three,” respect for social order in the family and just having a code. Some families just point to their nose or tweak their ear, but the idea that there is a signal, because a lot of times parents really don’t recognize their disrespect. And they’ve got to be willing to be open to that feedback. Sarcasm is very commonly used with parents.
Alyson Schafer:
And when I tell them, that’s just like pain tied up with a bow. It’s like you’re actually saying something very hurtful, but you’re turning it into a joke so as to not be accountable for it, but it’s very painful. The pointed pain still lands on the child. And they don’t know. They honestly never looked at it that way. But kids will tell them. They’ll say, “That was painful. I didn’t like that.” So I think there’s lots of times where tone, labeling, eyeball rolling, these are all things that parents do commonly without being aware that it’s disrespectful. So yeah, you got to be open to that feedback from your kids.
Mike Domitrz:
Love it. Now you have some books that you really think are great for parents. One is called Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson and others. Kids are Worth It by Featuring a new Introduction by bestselling author Barbara Coloroso, Calming the Family Storm by Gary McKay and Steven Maybell and Parents and Teens by William Glasser. Why these books?
Alyson Schafer:
So the first one there, the parenting, the Positive Discipline with Jane Nelson. What I like about her series, again, she’s an Adlerian. But she’s got it for all different ages. So she’s got it for preschool, she’s got it in the classroom, she’s got it for teens, families, so it’s a little bit more sculpted for your family situation and age in development. So she’s bang on, I love her stuff. Barbara Coloroso is a big American name. She speaks a lot in Canada and she’s got a very easy manner, very easy messaging. She doesn’t say she’s Adlerian, but all her principles are. And she’s just very accessible in the language. And Calming the Family Storm, those two gentlemen, McKay and Maybell, they’re Adlerians. And so they speak to, I don’t want to say crisis because I don’t think people like that word. But let’s face it, the family fighting, they really get to the conflict piece and the resolving it respectfully piece in a deeper way than some other parents do. So there’s more psychological meat in the conflict in that book. And then remind me what the last one was.
Mike Domitrz:
The last one we have here is Parents and Teens.
Alyson Schafer:
Oh yeah, William Glasser. So William Glasser has his own theory that he’s branded under himself. He’s actually passed away recently. But he also was a member of our national organization and speaks and presents. But he got his start working with juvenile delinquent teens. So when you start working with teens that have gone off the rails, and then work through, what do they do with teens that are being rehabilitated? What does it turn out that they do? All the stuff that we’re telling parents to do proactively. So they give them a voice, they let them have democracy, they give them freedoms within limits, all the good stuff. And they do that restoratively. But I think he really knows teens very, very well, and he really knows how to help parents reach that population in a very powerful way. So yeah, I love his work as well.
Mike Domitrz:
Awesome.
Alyson Schafer:
All his books, all his books. But that teen book is particularly needed in today’s society.
Mike Domitrz:
I want to make sure people can find you, Alyson. Your website’s alysonschafer.com, that’s A-L-Y-S-O-N, only one L, Schafer, S-C-H-A-F-E-R.com. We’re going to have it all in the show notes. They can find your Facebook, your YouTube there, everything. Thank you for giving us so much great content for parents.
Alyson Schafer:
Thank you for having me on and keep doing the great work you’re doing
Mike Domitrz:
I appreciate that. Thank you very much. And for our listeners, you know what’s next? That is question of the week. Before I answer this week’s question of the week, I’d love to ask you a question. Would you please subscribe to this podcast, The RESPECT podcast with Mike Domitrz? By subscribing you can make a huge impact. Now you might be wondering, Mike, how does my subscribing to your podcast make a huge impact? Here’s how. For every person that subscribes, it raises the rankings of the show in the search engines. So for people who care about respect like yourself, when they’re doing a search for podcast, they’re more likely to find this show, thus providing an awesome opportunity for us to spread more respect around this world. And all you do is hit subscribe under your podcast. Plus, the second benefit is by subscribing, you automatically get every episode right into your phone or whatever device you’re listening to the podcast on.
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Mike Domitrz:
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